The Softer Side of E-mail Communication
People usually don’t associate the terms “relational” or “interpersonal” with business communication. At least in a symbolic sense, many familiar business icons—PowerPoint, the internal meeting, interviewing—have come to represent more sterile, protocol heavy forms of communication that lack true connectivity with the audience. It may seem that way, especially when dealing with lightning speed, content focused mediums like e-mail. We’d like to present a softer side.
In the last post we talked about the subtleties of sign offs and how they essentially sandwich an e-mail with the attitude the writer has toward both subject and audience. Is your e-mail a formal follow up to a prospective client? You might end with “Best regards”. Trying to end on a serious note with that vendor who failed you in the worst possible way? Then a stiff “Regards” might do well to make the point.
But what about sign offs that play on cordiality and rapport building? When is it the right time? How much is too much? These are all great questions, and many of you have asked because you are looking to write e-mails that are relational, client ready, and familial. We have broken down the ‘what’ and the ‘when’ of softer sign offs below:
1. Speaking strictly from language, what are the sign offs that are softer, appropriate for a professional communication context, and what are some of the differences across them? Here are just two of the most commonly used expressions:
Best- You will often see this one, a notch down from its formal counterpart, ‘Best regards.’ This is used when there is still a degree of distance, or there is no need to focus on relationship building at all. On the other hand, you may want to keep the ‘regards’ if you want to keep formality or proper distance in the relationship.
Cheers- This is friendly and comfortable in American business communication (cf. British ‘Cheers’.) When used, it conveys a comfortable environment and attitude toward the subject and audience. It should not be used with formal audiences or for straight-to-the-point business topics. Some people abandon it altogether and do not feel ‘natural’ using it. You should follow your instincts here.
No signoff- Just your name will do, or no signature at all. We could write a whole blog post on various reasons for this, but let’s just say for now that your degree of comfort level and relationship with the recipient play a big part.
2. When is it the right time to abandon a more formal style, e.g. ‘Best regards’, for a more casual ‘Best’? And when is the focus on the softer side of e-mails too much? A few good guidelines to follow would be:
Topic: How formal or serious is the topic? You can, and should, use your judgment here. For subjects of more elevated importance, don’t get cute with the audience, be to-the-point and professional.
Newness of relationship: How well do you know each other, or any number of cced members on the e-mail? After a few rounds of ping pong e-mail, you can generally feel out the climate. Don’t rule out new rules of engagement (and adjustments to business communication) that newer topics and changes in the relationship can bring. If you’re wondering whether you might get cozy too quick, follow your audience’s lead on language.
Frequency of the exchanges: After a few exchanges, even one or two, you will notice your recipient change the formality levels of their language and so should you if you haven’t yet. On the other hand, an overemphasis on softer language and attempts at relationship building in e-mail should be limited and subtle. More so than this, it should become part of your natural expression. If you are uncertain about certain expressions, such as idioms, avoid them at all costs.
Of course, there is no perfect formula for every situation. Using your judgment is more important than these guidelines. And as we’ve said before, if you’re not sure, ask! Better business communication and polishing your soft skills is just another part of career ownership, and you should own it.
We leave the rest up to you. If there’s a question you’re itching to ask or you’re doubting your approach to establishing rapport through e-mail exchanges, then write us info@springboardsconsulting.com or call us.
Thanks for reading. Until the next post….
